Comments on: Lauren’s new project, and a note from the “king of starting over” http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/ Sat, 20 Mar 2010 02:50:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Liz http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-413499 Liz Thu, 10 Jul 2008 23:37:46 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-413499 I feel the same as the last contributor. I'm on the way out of the 3rd marriage, no kids from any of them (36 years old). There is so much judgement from society and it's always passed before getting know what's in the heart....how it has come to this, etc. I would like to think that I could love again but trust, of myself, is a huge issue. I suppose if we think of it is as Hugo has written, 3 successful marriages (periods of growth and learning) that's one thing, but not everyone shares that positive and helpful view. I feel the same as the last contributor. I’m on the way out of the 3rd marriage, no kids from any of them (36 years old). There is so much judgement from society and it’s always passed before getting know what’s in the heart….how it has come to this, etc.

I would like to think that I could love again but trust, of myself, is a huge issue. I suppose if we think of it is as Hugo has written, 3 successful marriages (periods of growth and learning) that’s one thing, but not everyone shares that positive and helpful view.

]]> By: jeanne http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-363784 jeanne Mon, 02 Jun 2008 02:59:58 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-363784 hi, i am a woman on my third divorce. my first marriage i was too young, my husband much older. it lasted 2 years and bore one son. my second lasted 13 years, we had a daughter. he got sick. paranoid. he wouldn't go to work. my third marriage is now ending, i ended all of them. i didn't love and respect him the way a wife should. i married expecting very little and i got even less. that was mistake i will never make again. i married someone that i would not have if my self esteem had not been so bad because of the first 2 divorces. it is nice to hear, hugo, that you feel you can love again. i know i can love again, but who would ever want me? people think badly of someone with a history. i am just 45 years old, i figure i'll be going it alone from here. hi,

i am a woman on my third divorce. my first marriage i was too young, my husband much older. it lasted 2 years and bore one son.
my second lasted 13 years, we had a daughter. he got sick. paranoid. he wouldn’t go to work.

my third marriage is now ending, i ended all of them. i didn’t love and respect him the way a wife should. i married expecting very little and i got even less. that was mistake i will never make again. i married someone that i would not have if my self esteem had not been so bad because of the first 2 divorces.

it is nice to hear, hugo, that you feel you can love again. i know i can love again, but who would ever want me? people think badly of someone with a history. i am just 45 years old, i figure i’ll be going it alone from here.

]]> By: Gretchen http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-95078 Gretchen Thu, 09 Aug 2007 01:17:47 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-95078 Ok, I'm not THE G from previous posts. How in the heck do ya go from point A to point B? I've been married for 16 years and now going thru separation/divorce. I don't even know where to START getting out of the house! I haven't worked for 15 of those years, home raising son, and started working from home part time just last year (for my sister). At least I have a little income. Can't go back to my former job due to actions of my ex. He's totally screwed us financially, socially, and legally. I just don't have a clue on where to start to make my life better! PS: this is #2. Last one was WAY easier and less entanglements. Ok, I’m not THE G from previous posts.
How in the heck do ya go from point A to point B? I’ve been married for 16 years and now going thru separation/divorce. I don’t even know where to START getting out of the house! I haven’t worked for 15 of those years, home raising son, and started working from home part time just last year (for my sister). At least I have a little income. Can’t go back to my former job due to actions of my ex. He’s totally screwed us financially, socially, and legally. I just don’t have a clue on where to start to make my life better! PS: this is #2. Last one was WAY easier and less entanglements.

]]> By: Hugo http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28098 Hugo Mon, 13 Nov 2006 14:14:01 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28098 He violated my rules against personal attacks, and those comments have been deleted, shortly after they were posted in most cases. I am not obliged to leave them up so that others can weigh in on whether the banning was justified. He violated my rules against personal attacks, and those comments have been deleted, shortly after they were posted in most cases.

I am not obliged to leave them up so that others can weigh in on whether the banning was justified.

]]> By: beste http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28097 beste Mon, 13 Nov 2006 14:08:08 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28097 Hugo I also wouldn't mind knowing why G got banned. Hugo

I also wouldn’t mind knowing why G got banned.

]]> By: Lynn Gazis-Sax http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28096 Lynn Gazis-Sax Mon, 13 Nov 2006 11:44:18 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28096 FWIW, I think men are blamed as much for divorce as women are, but that women are blamed more than men for having many partners. I'm not sure how that falls out when both a man and a woman have multiple divorces in their past. FWIW, I think men are blamed as much for divorce as women are, but that women are blamed more than men for having many partners. I’m not sure how that falls out when both a man and a woman have multiple divorces in their past.

]]> By: Lynn Gazis-Sax http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28095 Lynn Gazis-Sax Mon, 13 Nov 2006 11:42:03 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28095 It looks to me as if Hugo deleted the last couple of comments that G made before Hugo banned him. There was at least one that sounded worse than the one that's still left (which remaining comment is, indeed, as SamChevre said, not particularly offensive). It looks to me as if Hugo deleted the last couple of comments that G made before Hugo banned him. There was at least one that sounded worse than the one that’s still left (which remaining comment is, indeed, as SamChevre said, not particularly offensive).

]]> By: SamChevre http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28094 SamChevre Mon, 13 Nov 2006 10:53:43 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28094 Hugo, It's your blog--run it as you like--but I'd like to know what was so offensive about G's comment (as I like commenting here occasionally.) My guess, based on my own observation, would have agreed with his--that men are blamed for divorce at least as much as women. Hugo,

It’s your blog–run it as you like–but I’d like to know what was so offensive about G’s comment (as I like commenting here occasionally.) My guess, based on my own observation, would have agreed with his–that men are blamed for divorce at least as much as women.

]]> By: Hugo http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28093 Hugo Mon, 13 Nov 2006 02:07:38 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28093 G, all of your posts will be deleted even if you change your IP. G, all of your posts will be deleted even if you change your IP.

]]> By: wolfa http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28092 wolfa Sun, 12 Nov 2006 23:55:35 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2006/11/10/laurens-new-project-and-a-note-from-the-king-of-starting-over/#comment-28092 People in NJ -- where all stations are full serve -- often do not know how to pump their own gas. People in NJ — where all stations are full serve — often do not know how to pump their own gas.

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