I’ve been kindly linked by those who run the blog “Divorce Diva”. That’s nice, and it looks like it’s got some good advice for women going through divorces. But then there’s this introduction to me:
I am a big fan of blogs and just discovered an interesting one written by a woman named Hugo. Who is Hugo? Who knows and in blogland, it’s not important at all. Anyway, she is clearly a very successful blogger and I enjoyed perusing her posts but more importantly the follow up comments.
Perhaps my photo at right doesn’t show up well on Divorce Diva’s screen. Perhaps in DD’s world, many women are named “Hugo”. Perhaps my writing about divorce seems, well, more reflective of a woman’s perspective. (Some, not all, of the men’s rights activists — MRAs — have been questioning my masculinity for years. They probably think Divorce Diva’s got it about right.)
Look, folks, if my own claim to live as a man and my photos displaying my facial hair aren’t enough for ya, so be it. As long as you’re reading.
Here’s my favorite post of mine about getting married a fourth time, and what’s different this time ’round:
Jesus told me to grow the *%ck up: A response to the Countess.
Hugo, how embarassing~ I seriously thought you were doing a George Sand because as you so rightly say your insight into women is astounding and I just couldn’t believe that the intelligence and intense understanding of the female psyche could have come from a man. I did see the picture but thought that was all part of the plan. A very good looking man you are too..so please accept my humble apologies and know that you are now officially a ‘he’ on DD’s site. Did you read my post on hermaphrodites - I think you might enjoy that given the conversation. check it out http://www.divorcediva.typepad.com - about 7-8 days ago. Best, DD
HA! I’ve been told that most folks assume my blog belongs to a man because there are boots in the layouts, and everyone knows girls wear impractical shoes.
Thanks, Divorce Diva for making the change and for saying nice things. Comparing me to George Sand makes me very happy, but I don’t know about my insight into women being so great!
Dude,
I would so frame this if I were you. Real props!
FWIW, I know a woman named Hugo. Actually she is just a girl, but I knew her Mom at the time she gave birth, and she named her Daughter “Hugo”.
Hugo is twelve or thirteen I think.
And seriously, I cannot but think it a compliment to your Feminism to be assumed to be female. Way to GO, DOOD!
DD obviously missed your (own) circumcision post. ;-)
the best things happen to you! really funny.
Thanks, all. Wouldn’t it be a hoot if I did suddenly reveal myself as a woman, and the photos on the blog are all of some random white dude I found loitering about?
this reminds me of the time a friend and colleague slapped me with an “honorary lesbian” bumper sticker…
Surprisingly, back when I was blogging a few people assumed I was male, even though I chose a feminine-sounding pseudonym and put a big flower on my blog banner. I don’t know if it’s because of my writing style, or if they just figured that if you aren’t sure, it’s better to err on the male side (a sexist assumption, but a prudent one…).