I’m curious why were you “looking for someone around 15 years younger”.

Karen: as I’ve already explained on my lengthy post on a separate page, I want a younger woman because I’ve never had one. Not to mention the fact that I have more in common with younger women than with women in my peer group, because younger women and I more easily match up with similar levels of life experience. A 35-y.o. would be good; a 32-y.o. would be terrific. Of course , there are certainly other factors, in addition to age, to consider.

I’m curious why were you “looking for someone around 15 years younger”.

Once again, Urra, kudos to you for your valuable insight regarding levels of maturity. And for the record, I hereby forfeit my sympathy card because it no longer suits my game plan. However, doing so does not change the fact that Hugo’s analysis of my problems reeks of unadulterated tripe. Or at the very least, fallacious reasoning regarding maturity, male entitlement, and a host of other problems. Still, I maintain that he’s eminently entertaining in a manner bordering on the Kingesque.

(I’ve read Debra’s comments and this really is my impression of her. I haven’t read Pacific’s answer.)

Also, there’s a bit in the end of your text that doesn’t seem to make any sense:
“And frankly, it’s easier to give direction to Pacific: “get over yourself and look for a woman in your peer group with whom you can have a real connection. If they all seem too ‘old’ for you, it may be that you’re not mature enough for them.””

If he isn’t mature enough for women in his own age, isn’t a relationship with someone younger exactly the thing he should be doing? After all, the younger woman probably is less mature as well. (If they’re equally immature, the more chances they should have to have “a real connection”.)

No, I’m serious, even if my wording may be a little sarcastic. I’ve seen this argument before and I’ve never been able to understand it. I wonder if it’s actually nothing more than an attempt to insult.

For the record, I am a young-ish woman not in a relationship with any man of any age.

However, any comments will, of necessity, need to remain here on Hugo’s blog because my page is not comment-enabled.

Am I looking for a father figure? Perhaps, as I lost my father in a car accident when I was four. Is this necessarily an unhealthy or even sick desire? I don’t think so. However, I don’t see my husband as a father-substitute and we don’t relate to one another that way. Sure, I value his stability, his brilliance (he’s the most intelligent man I’ve ever met), his kindness, and his inate goodness. He’s financially-stable, but not super-wealthy. I’m a CPA, so I’d have a comfortable lifestyle without him.

I don’t for a second think he “took my youth away”. He’s introduced me to places and people I probably never would have encountered had I not fallen in love with him.

I think Debra’s “friend” could me genuinely in-love with a younger woman–for reasons other than her tight thighs and naivete. Really, there are some 22-year-old who are far more contemplative than their older sisters and whose outlook on life some older men might find refreshing. Debra should get a life of her own and stop worrying about a situation she can’t change. Love is found sometimes in places where the head doesn’t want to go but the heart does. This does not always lead to a bad outcome.