Comments on: “Something I can never back out of”: some reflections on the prospect of having kids http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/ Fri, 05 Dec 2008 11:32:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Thoughts on Children : Elaine Vigneault http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-142741 Thoughts on Children : Elaine Vigneault Tue, 06 Nov 2007 15:42:45 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-142741 [...] Hugo's expressing his thoughts on becoming a father and I figured it's time to weigh in on some of my parenting ideas. Ed and I plan to have or adopt children, but we're not forcing anything and we're not jumping the gun. I'll put it this way: we're not using birth control. After we buy our place and settle in we'll start the adoption process. If we wind up having children from both methods, great. If neither work out, well, we'll probably adopt another dog, or maybe a turkey ;) [...] […] Hugo’s expressing his thoughts on becoming a father and I figured it’s time to weigh in on some of my parenting ideas. Ed and I plan to have or adopt children, but we’re not forcing anything and we’re not jumping the gun. I’ll put it this way: we’re not using birth control. After we buy our place and settle in we’ll start the adoption process. If we wind up having children from both methods, great. If neither work out, well, we’ll probably adopt another dog, or maybe a turkey ;) […]

]]> By: kate http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-142083 kate Mon, 05 Nov 2007 22:56:49 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-142083 My desire to have a child comes from a place of wanting more love in my life, and to rise up out of myself and be more connected with another being, and my community. Since having a child (7 months ago) I have started paying way more attention to community issues and a whole host of things that affect families. While I held some beliefs about family issues intellectually, I didn't really feeeeel them like I do now. For example, I always have deplored violence against children, and really didn't understand how anyone could hurt a baby. After experiencing the helplessness of an infant first hand, I know in my bones that anyone who deliberately hurts a child has something deeply wrong with them. Having a child has changed my perspective on war. I've never been in favor of it and have always seen it to be a waste of life. Now I can't imagine anything I'd be willing to send my child to die for except for cases of clear and compelling evil (aka Nazis part deaux). It makes me even more irate at the whole Iraq situation. grrrr..... My desire to have a child comes from a place of wanting more love in my life, and to rise up out of myself and be more connected with another being, and my community. Since having a child (7 months ago) I have started paying way more attention to community issues and a whole host of things that affect families. While I held some beliefs about family issues intellectually, I didn’t really feeeeel them like I do now. For example, I always have deplored violence against children, and really didn’t understand how anyone could hurt a baby. After experiencing the helplessness of an infant first hand, I know in my bones that anyone who deliberately hurts a child has something deeply wrong with them.

Having a child has changed my perspective on war. I’ve never been in favor of it and have always seen it to be a waste of life. Now I can’t imagine anything I’d be willing to send my child to die for except for cases of clear and compelling evil (aka Nazis part deaux). It makes me even more irate at the whole Iraq situation. grrrr…..

]]> By: Hugo Schwyzer http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-142016 Hugo Schwyzer Mon, 05 Nov 2007 21:10:09 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-142016 It's certainly an option. Right now, we're limiting ourselves to chinchilla adoptions, but the possibility of adopting humans is not out of the question. It’s certainly an option. Right now, we’re limiting ourselves to chinchilla adoptions, but the possibility of adopting humans is not out of the question.

]]> By: FuntFuntFunt http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-141980 FuntFuntFunt Mon, 05 Nov 2007 19:52:27 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/11/05/something-i-can-never-back-out-of-some-reflections-on-the-prospect-of-having-kids/#comment-141980 I don't mean for the thread to drift into this topic but do you guys consider adopting as well as procreating? One of my sisters gave birth to one kid and adopted the second from Russia when she was two. Both experiences have been rewarding and inspiring. I don’t mean for the thread to drift into this topic but do you guys consider adopting as well as procreating?
One of my sisters gave birth to one kid and adopted the second from Russia when she was two. Both experiences have been rewarding and inspiring.

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