Comments on: “How do you desexualize that?”: on the erotics of teaching, and learning to affirm and redirect http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:18:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: mentoring and student behavior http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-425960 mentoring and student behavior Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:41:40 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-425960 [...] with an old and familiar subject, that of teacher-student affairs at the post-secondary level. Thttp://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learni...Arizona forensic psychologist's rise to fame (East Valley Tribune) Erin Spiers has worked in places [...] […] with an old and familiar subject, that of teacher-student affairs at the post-secondary level. Thttp://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learni…Arizona forensic psychologist’s rise to fame (East Valley Tribune) Erin Spiers has worked in places […]

]]> By: Hugo Schwyzer http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-375229 Hugo Schwyzer Mon, 09 Jun 2008 23:57:58 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-375229 Sheena, among the many casualties of my reckless affairs with various students in the past were precisely those students with whom I wasn't involved -- but who, upon discovering the "truth" about my bad behavior (I was stunningly indiscreet), were disillusioned and often disgusted. Sheena, among the many casualties of my reckless affairs with various students in the past were precisely those students with whom I wasn’t involved — but who, upon discovering the “truth” about my bad behavior (I was stunningly indiscreet), were disillusioned and often disgusted.

]]> By: Robert http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-375026 Robert Mon, 09 Jun 2008 21:33:06 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-375026 Didn't <a href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/v/van+halen/hot+for+teacher_20142736.html" rel="nofollow">Van Halen</a> already cover this material? Didn’t Van Halen already cover this material?

]]> By: AP http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-374956 AP Mon, 09 Jun 2008 20:42:41 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-374956 Blogrolling you. Also - please e-mail me so I can send you the evite to the next bloggers picnic. Blogrolling you.

Also - please e-mail me so I can send you the evite to the next bloggers picnic.

]]> By: Sheena http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-374937 Sheena Mon, 09 Jun 2008 20:28:50 +0000 http://hugoschwyzer.net/2008/06/09/how-do-you-desexualize-that-on-the-erotics-of-teaching-and-learning-to-affirm-and-redirect/#comment-374937 I would love to know what the students you had your "affairs" with think about you now. As a recent student, it's hard to imagine what you were like before. Honestly, it just horrifies me to think about a professor hitting on me, mostly because unlike so many of the women you write about I am mostly interested in guys my own age (early, almost mid twenties). So much of your feminism today seems so closely tied to, as you always put it, "being safe". You do a great job being safe for someone like me, but if I had been your student back when you weren't, I don't know... I think even if you had never been untoward with me, if I had found out you had been with other girls,, I would have hated you. Not out of jealousy, even though you're a great teacher, but out of seeing such sheer and complete hypocrisy. This is a long way of saying I think you're awesome now, and am just so happy I didn't know you back then. I would love to know what the students you had your “affairs” with think about you now. As a recent student, it’s hard to imagine what you were like before. Honestly, it just horrifies me to think about a professor hitting on me, mostly because unlike so many of the women you write about I am mostly interested in guys my own age (early, almost mid twenties). So much of your feminism today seems so closely tied to, as you always put it, “being safe”. You do a great job being safe for someone like me, but if I had been your student back when you weren’t, I don’t know… I think even if you had never been untoward with me, if I had found out you had been with other girls,, I would have hated you. Not out of jealousy, even though you’re a great teacher, but out of seeing such sheer and complete hypocrisy.

This is a long way of saying I think you’re awesome now, and am just so happy I didn’t know you back then.

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