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Home again: some preliminary reflections on Israel

It’s just before nine in the morning, and I’m back in the office on campus. Our flight from London left two hours late, and the baggage carousel was very slow at LAX yesterday afternoon — the upshot was that I just made it to PCC in time for my 6:00PM class wearing the same clothes I’d worn on the plane, unshowered, jet-lagged, and decidedly malodorous. I managed to teach for nearly three hours regardless, but I kept a greater-than-usual distance from my students.

I smell better this morning. Today is a “faculty FLEX” (inservice education) day. We’re given doughnuts, orange juice, and pep talks from the administration. Some glad-hander with the initials Ed.D after his or her name will address a plenary session of the faculty, offering us the latest pedagogical insights. Most of us, rude hypocrites that we are, will conduct ourselves all the while like the very students we dislike: we’ll doze, whisper, and play with our various electronic gadgets. Most of us will make disparaging remarks about those who pursue education degrees, or call themselves “educators” instead of “teachers” or “professors.”

I’d much rather be teaching today.

In any event, my wife and I had a fascinating time in Israel. As I’ve mentioned a few times before, we’ve both been affiliated with the Kabbalah Centre for many years. This year, the Centre chose to mark the High Holy Days in Israel, and we decided that represented the right time for us to make our first visit to that remarkable, challenging part of the world. Continue reading ‘Home again: some preliminary reflections on Israel’

Almost home

I’m sitting in a very familiar corner of terminal one at Heathrow, waiting for the long flight back home. We flew into London from Israel last night, spent a few hours in the uninspiring but thoroughly reliable Jurys Inn, and we’re now getting ready to hop on the 279 back to LAX.

I fully expect to be back in Pasadena in plenty of time to teach my night class tonight.

I haven’t shaved in over two weeks, haven’t been to the gym in longer, and have eaten more hummus than is decent. But we’ve had a marvelous and fascinating time in the Holy Land, and blogging will indeed return anon.

Even though we’re not home to the States yet, it’s nice to be back in a country where people speak with soft voices and stand obediently in queues. Israel was a bit shocking on both counts.

A note on being at home in Carmel

I’m back in the office, busy working up my fall syllabi. (And for those of you who have seen my office, it’s just been cleaned, top to bottom. You won’t recognize it.)

My wife and I spent the weekend visiting my mom in what I consider to be my hometown, Carmel by-the-Sea. I was born in Santa Barbara, but following my parents’ divorce, my mother, brother and I moved to Carmel. It was 1973, and I had just turned six. A lot happens to a person between the ages of six and eighteen (the age at which I graduated from Carmel High) and so it’s that community that I call my home.

Carmel, in my childhood, was much more socio-economically diverse than it is now. It began its life as an artists’ community, and in my childhood, was filled with more “mom n’ pop” grocery stores and gas stations than art galleries. There were certainly plenty of wealthy people around, but there was also a notable “bohemian element”, a fine group of “hippies”, and more than a few people in the middle class. Growing up, I wore Tuffskin jeans and my mother drove (for years) a ‘75 Ford Pinto. There were more Fords on the streets than Cadillacs or BMWs, and the streets were filled with children who actually lived in this fog-shrouded, woodsy paradise.

This weekend, with a car show in nearby Pebble Beach, I counted more than a dozen Bentleys. I saw no Ford Pintos, and very few Hyundais or battered old Toyotas. We’re down to two gas stations in town (from eleven thirty years ago), and we’ve got so many art galleries that my mother is convinced that they all serve as money-laundering fronts for the Mob. The high school today has 1/3rd fewer students than it did when I was a student. The streets are filled, as one wag put it to me recently, with “old people who’ve come to visit their parents.” There were very few children playing in the streets this weekend; the few children I did see were wearing Lacoste and Abercrombie rather than Sears, and they were all under the careful supervision of hovering parents.

On Sunday, we went through nearly a dozen “open houses”. Prices have come down a bit in recent months, but there’s nothing in my old neighborhood under $1.4 million (and that was for a 2 bedroom, 1 bath, 1000 square-foot board and batten cottage.) Most of the newer places were in the range of $2.5-$5.0 million, and were largely devoid of charm. It was more than a little depressing, though we took not a little pleasure in making loud and censorious remarks within earshot of all available realtors. (What’s with all these damned pillars everywhere? OKOP don’t put up pillars.)

I never go to Carmel without walking the half-mile from my childhood home to “Tor House”, the stunning stone cottage built by my beloved Robinson Jeffers. Though his place is now a protected monument, what was once his isolated little corner of Carmel Point is now surrounded by the homes of others eager to claim (for several million dollars) their spot of paradise. But how can I condemn others for wanting to do as my family did? Those who got here first have no particular moral claim. Nevertheless, I always say the lines of one of Jeffers’ most famous poems to myself as I walk away. This part in particular is always with me:

…people are a tide
That swells and in time will ebb, and all
Their works dissolve…

I find more comfort in that than perhaps I ought.

Home, and an initial marathon report

We’re home from a happy weekend in the Bay Area.

I ran the San Francisco Marathon yesterday morning, finishing in a pedestrian 3:52:44. I’d had a good season of training, but despite the pleas of my good running buddies, I hadn’t done a lick of “speed work” all spring or early summer. And yesterday’s run result reflected both the good and the bad of the last few months of work: I ran at a remarkably steady pace, hitting nearly perfectly even splits for the entire race. I ran the first half in 1:56:16, the second 13.1 miles in 1:56:28. In my thirteen previous marathons, I’d always run my second half at least two minutes slower than my first, so it was nice to show some consistency. (And I can account for those twelve second-half seconds: Hugo had to duck into a bush in Golden Gate park just past the half-way point. I know, far too much information…)

My last three road marathons have all seen me finish in the 3:50s, though I was faster yesterday than I was in my previous two (3:54 and 3:57). And I felt very strong at the finish, crossing the line with a sense that if I had had to do a few more miles, it would have been okay. The walk back to the hotel — a good mile and a half — was relatively easy, which was a relief. So, bottom line: I had a great time, particularly while running across the Golden Gate Bridge, and finished in a time that was consistent with my “heavy on long, slow distance; short on speed work” training regimen. My now eight-year old personal best of 3:13 is safe, assuredly forever.

I can highly recommend Millenium, the superb vegan restaurant we went to on Saturday night. A fine place to fuel up for a marathon; my wife and I shared a delicious tasting menu of plant-based foods that were all locally and organically produced. Millenium is worth a trip to the City.

Perhaps some more marathon reflections later.

Home

My plane landed at Burbank Airport at 2:35. I was in my office here at PCC by 3:35, and I am besieged by emails and students and papers.

The key today: give each student 100% of my attention. And combine affirmations and exhortations, and do so very, very fast.

A long post about PCRM, veganism and gettin’ evangelical

My prayers this morning go out to all those affected by the Virginia Tech shooting tragedy. I have a few Hokie alumni in my family (though far more who went to UVA), and I know a couple of folks still closely associated with the Blacksburg campus. I know that several of my readers are Hokies, and my thoughts and prayers are especially directed towards them.

It’s spring break (Pasadena City College has what must be America’s latest spring break), and I’m in our little study at home. I was in Virginia yesterday, if driving from the District to Dulles in a downpour can be considered being “in Virginia”. (We did find some great vegan Ethiopian food in a little strip mall in Ballston.) My wife and I spent the weekend in Washington attending the Art of Compassion gala to raise money for and celebrate the accomplishments of one of our very favorite charities, the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine.

What I love about PCRM is that more than any other animal rights outfit, they adopt a holistic approach to personal and global transformation. PCRM is one of the leading organizations advocating vegan diets for all. Backed by a growing network of hundreds of doctors and nutritionists across the USA and Canada, PCRM is reaching out to millions through increasingly savvy media campaigns. (My wife and I are particularly pleased with — and particularly interested in supporting — PCRM’s brand-spankin’ new Spanish-language campaign.) PCRM also campaigns against the use of animals in medical research, and has played a leading role in developing alternatives. (PCRM helped create “Digital Frog” to help end school dissections; they’ve helped popularize TraumaMan to replace the use of live animals in emergency medical education.)

Most animal rights organizations — and Lord knows, they all do fabulous work — want to save animals. The folks who run PCRM, led by the remarkably energetic and charismatic Dr. Neal Barnard, want to do the same. But saving animals is about more than stopping a seal hunt, or shutting down a few fur farms or puppy mills. (All very worthy causes, mind.) PCRM’s point is that what is good for animals is also good for us and for our planet. A balanced vegan regimen requires far fewer natural resources to produce than a meat-and-dairy laden one. And the health benefits of veganism (or even its softer form, lacto-ovo vegetarianism) are sufficiently well-demonstrated as to be nigh on undeniable.

The world says: “Children need milk to build strong bones”. The world says “Beef is the best source of iron and protein, especially for women.” The world says “Without animal research, we can’t make necessary medical breakthroughs.” The world says “A vegetarian or vegan diet is too boring, too miserable, and too time-consuming for the average modern person.” And carefully, with painstakingly documented research, PCRM works to disprove all of these deeply-held myths. (PCRM helped expose the roots of the Vioxx tragedy: what had proved safe in animals turned out deadly for humans. Animal testing too often makes animals suffer and tells us nothing about what works for people.)

Sigh. This post is turning into an infomercial. That’s not what this blog is supposed to be about, and I apologize. This is how I feel after retreat weekends with my youth group, or after a men- against-rape training. I feel inspired and invigorated, and more than usually evangelical!

Last month, Stentor at Debitage put up this post: Moral Relativist Anti-Vegetarianism. Stentor, a trained amateur philosopher, has pointed out more than once that I have an exasperating habit of making sweeping moral statements — and promptly disavowing the idea that I am actually proselytizing, claiming at times that “this is just me.” He’s right. The truth is that a vegetarian or vegan lifestyle almost always is about making a universal moral claim. Stentor writes:

So what makes vegetarianism especially threatening whereas diversity in other parts of life evokes less hostility? One inescapable part of the picture — which unfortunately vegetarians spend a lot of time disclaiming in a usually futile effort to avoid the proselytizing charge — is that vegetarianism is a moral position. Aside from the small number of people who are vegetarians purely for health or henotheistic religious reasons, to become a vegetarian is to implicitly endorse a non-relativistic moral code*. Second, vegetarianism is threatening – becoming a vegetarian involves a significant change in a fairly fundamental part of one’s lifestyle. Third, vegetarianism is realistic. For all the joking about how life wouldn’t be worth living without bacon, vegetarianism is within reach of the majority of developed world adults. (It’s not without hardships for some, and I’m not endorsing a purely personal-lifestyle-change-based policy, but the fact remains that most North Americans could drastically reduce their meat consumption if they really put their minds to it.) Adding to the realism is the surface plausibility of the vegetarian position — it’s comparatively easy for even a committed omnivore to understand what makes vegetarians think they’re right. Bold emphasis is mine.

Stentor is frequently right, and here, he’s dead on. I realize that on this blog, I write about many things: diet, feminism, faith, exercise. As a progressive evangelical writing for a general audience, I’ve deliberately disavowed Christian proselytizing in this space. Do I wish more people would pursue a personal, transforming relationship with Christ? Yes. Do I believe that no one can be saved without consciously forming that relationship? No, I don’t. Do I wish more people — especially men — would embrace feminist principles of egalitarianism in every aspect of their public and private lives? Yes. Do I want every man (and woman) to stop using porn, to stop objectifying women, to stop the economic, sexual, and physical exploitation of their sisters? Yes.

So the question I’m wrestling with is this: does my veganism correlate more closely with my feminism or my Christianity? If it’s like my Christian faith, it’s a “personal choice” — one among many. I do believe that my Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, Wiccan, animist, and atheist friends will be saved (though how, exactly, is not something I can always articulate.) I do believe that I am called to follow Christ, but I also believe that others follow Him even as they call Him by other names. What would make the world a far better place isn’t necessarily everyone becoming Christian; what would make the world a far better place is if everyone actually lived out the principles of their faiths and creeds. But if every man and woman on this planet saw women as equally worthy of dignity and respect, as equally entitled to share in resources and in decision-making, as equally prepared to lead, as equally deserving of being seen as a whole person — then heck yes, the planet would be better off. Feminism is, in that sense, essential.


And I’m prepared to start arguing that vegetarianism (or better yet, veganism) has the power to bring about tremendous change. It will improve the health of the individual and of the planet, and it will exponentially reduce the unnecessary suffering of sentient, conscious creatures.
So yes, I’m going to risk alienating still more readers with a more explicit commitment to veganism here on this blog.

In the end, I’m trying to follow ever more closely Forster’s maxim: “only connect.” What I wear matters. What I eat matters. Everything we do connects us to other living creatures. Every darned thing I do every day matters. And my brothers and sisters, the same does go for you too. Every dollar you spend is a vote. The food you buy, the clothes you wear, the words you speak: these impact the world. And I’m asking you to consider making the best possible choices in your public, private, educational, familial, sexual, and economic lives.

My commitment to full veganism is relatively recent (I’ve been a vegetarian for longer.) It’s been a slow evolution rather than an instant decision. Like most lasting conversions, it has come gradually rather than in a flash of light. But you’re gonna be hearing more on this blog about animal rights, veganism, and how they connect to faith and feminism.

More about my PCRM weekend below the fold. Continue reading ‘A long post about PCRM, veganism and gettin’ evangelical’

A quick defense of American Airlines: UPDATED

Jill has a post up about American Airlines’ odd new “women-friendly” campaign, which involves a pink reservations page. It’s a misstep for AA, no question, but I am sorry that many folks in Feministe’s comment section are now resolving never to fly American again. Let me quote my own comment at Feministe (links for each of these assertions are available there):

They were the only airline among the Top 12 businesses for Latinas.

It’s the highest ranked airline for diversity according to Hispanic Business.

Ranked the top airline for women engineers.

The only airline to be a title sponsor of women’s leadership exchange.

The only airline on the top 100 list of best companies for working mothers, 2002.

The first airline in the world to have its own gay and lesbian employee organization, recognized and supported by the airline itself.

It is the #1 airline as ranked by Planet Out.

I don’t work for American Airlines. I fly them frequently because they are linked to British Airways in the Oneworld alliance. That’s where I rack up lotsa miles, tier points, and get nice status bonuses. But I also like supporting the most progressive airline in the country when it comes to minorities, glbtq folks, and women. From Planet Out:

This progressive carrier has flown well beyond merely “gay-friendly.” In fact, the airline is heading toward life-partner status. A perfect 100 percent in the HRC Equality Index, designation as official airline of GLAAD, PFLAG and the Human Rights Campaign, an impressive resume when it comes to supporting nonprofit organizations (including Chicago’s Gay Games) and a dedicated LGBT microsite (www.aavacations.com/rainbow), are just some of the qualifications that make American our first choice.

So I’ll mention my Sapphire Oneworld/BA Silver (Gold soon, deo volente) status when I drop AA a line tomorrow, giving them my usual kudos and offering a gentle suggestion that they rethink this current marketing campaign.

But please, folks, don’t boycott AA. No other major carrier in the skies has a track record half as good. (JetBlue is getting there, but it hasn’t been a major player long enough).

UPDATE: This is why I like AA. They’ve dropped the pink silliness within a day.

Some thoughts on luxury, travel, tithing, and faith

On Tuesday, I wrote a brief summary of our trip last week to Paris and to Devon. In the comments, a reader named John (not my regular “John from New Zealand”) asked:

Sounds like a good trip. Could you perhaps sometime talk about how you balance your enjoyment of the good things in life such as travel when most of the world’s population does not have such opportunities available to them? How do we balance liberal guilt with a life of privileged affluence?

I’ll deal with the “liberal guilt” idea in a moment.

I’ve gone back and forth about issues of wealth (relative or absolute), travel, responsibility, and Christian commitment over the years. I spent several of my teenage years as a Marxist, sending small money orders to the Socialist Workers Party and hectoring my family members about the evils of private property. They rightly predicted that I was going through a phase, pointing out that it was a good deal easier for me to condemn wealth as a completely dependent high school student than it would be as an adult.

When I became a serious Christian, I began to think seriously about the demands of the gospel regarding money. As most of us know, Jesus has more to say about wealth and economic justice than about any virtually any other topic. His words to the rich young ruler, “sell everything you have and give to the poor” haunted me. I’ve never been convinced that those words were meant for this young fellow alone, rather than as general instruction to all of us.

My first step towards creating a “Christian relationship with money” began when I was first at All Saints Pasadena, and heard a sermon on tithing. Up until this point, I’d given a little bit to charity here and there, but the total would never amount to even 1% of my gross income. But I felt inspired by my pastor’s sermon, and committed to giving ten percent. (At that point, I gave 10% of my net, not my gross. That seemed a huge amount to me at the time.)

My wife and I tithe on our gross income today. 10% of everything that comes in goes out. And frankly, giving away that ten percent is incredibly liberating. It’s as good an antidote for guilt as I know, as it leaves me freer to make use of the remaining 90% of what we earn together. To put it bluntly, we pay God first, and then we pay the mortgage, the car leases, and the Amex bill.

But I don’t believe, as some do, that tithing on one’s income gives one carte blanche to do whatever one wants with what remains. In our marriage, we try and make thoughtful, ethically-informed decisions about what we buy. We try and ascertain where our clothes were made; we try (as much as possible) to buy “cruelty free” consumer products. It’s not possible to do this perfectly, and sometimes, when we’re rushing through Whole Foods or Trader Joe’s, we don’t read labels as closely as we should. But my wife and I are committed to challenging each other to make ever better decisions about how we spend.

We both love to travel (my wife even more than I.) We’re good at playing various games with frequent flyer miles (we use credit cards for everything, accumulating redeemable points with every purchase.) We’ve both spent plenty of time in cheap hotels, and we’re in a position today where we’re able to afford slightly nicer places. We’ve worked very, very hard to earn the resources to make our brief (albeit frequent) trips possible, and we both are willing to spend a great deal on eating out and fine hotels.

Tangentially, there are other things we spend very little money on. We have zero interest in high-tech anything. I don’t need or want a flat-screen HDTV. We have one Ipod that we share, and that was a gift. Our cellphones have no cameras, no interactive features. I’d much rather drop a bundle on a truly fabulous dinner than on some upgrade to a computer system. I’d rather spend discretionary income on exciting experiences than on material objects.

I’m acutely aware that jet air travel contributes to global warming. And since we average 2-4 intercontinental plane trips a year, that means we’re very much part of the problem. I was very happy to discover the Climate Care website. Climate Care allows you to calculate the carbon emissions of any particular plane trip, and then purchase an “offset.” The offset is a direct contribution to a program that reduces carbon emissions around the world. (You can read about Climate Care’s projects here.) Part of me wonders if this isn’t a bit like purchasing an indulgence, of course, but it allows me to feel that I am indeed offsetting the negative impact I have on the planet with a corresponding positive one.

I don’t feel much of this so-called “liberal guilt” these days. Tithing and giving to organizations like Climate Care really does help. We also “tithe on our time”. Both of us volunteer with various organizations, and if we add up the time we spend in organized volunteer work (in my case, with All Saints Pasadena), it easily exceeds 10% of the time we spend at our jobs. When you’re giving at least 10% of your income, and “tithing on your time”, it does wonders to alleviate the nagging sense that you’re not “doing enough.”

Look, I’m not spoiled. I sleep on the hard floors at All Saints on our many overnight lock-ins, I’ve done the mission trips to Mexican villages where there’s no running water and I invariably come home with Montezuma’s revenge. I like new experiences, new places, new things — and that can mean a week on a rural Colombian finca or it can mean a couple of nights at a lovely five-star hotel and a seven-course dinner at a world-class restaurant. I never believe I’m entitled to these luxuries — but my tithing and my service means that I can enjoy a relatively small number of costly pleasures without guilt or doubt.

A few photos…

…are up at the Flickr account. I especially like this one from the bedroom balcony in our Paris hotel.

Diving back in: a brief trip report

It’s not even 7:00AM, and I’m wide awake, sitting at the computer in my office. I have stacks of finals to finish grading from the winter semester (the grades are due by tomorrow afternoon). I have stacks of syllabi for my spring semester classes which will get underway in about two hours. And I’m cruisin’ on about three hours sleep over the last two nights combined. Jet-lagged again.

My wife and I went to Paris for Valentine’s Day. For years, I’ve had the audacity to call myself a world traveler (and a historian of Europe), but had never once set foot in Paris. (Except for a transfer through Orly when I was six, which most definitely doesn’t count.) I’ve flown over France plenty of times, and been to most of the nations that surround it. But for any number of reasons, had never been. And what better time to go than for Valentine’s Day?

It was a hectic trip getting there. We had redeemed miles with Delta to get ourselves to Europe; since it was a free flight, we had to show some flexibility in our travel plans. We left LAX early last Tuesday, flew to Atlanta, and then on to London Gatwick. We then had a car take us to the Ashford International Railway station in Kent to catch the Eurostar into Paris.

I’d bought non-refundable tickets for the Eurostar. The flight was due into Gatwick just before 7:00AM, and the train wasn’t until 11:00AM, so I figured we had plenty of time. Despite some lingering thundershowers, the flight from Atlanta took off promptly, and I figured we were set. Three hours into the flight, somewhere over the Atlantic, the pilot jars me and 200 hundred other folks out of a doze, telling us we’re diverting back to Boston to remove “some illegal cargo that had mistakenly been put on board.” (No one told us what the cargo was, though a flight attendant mentioned birds, of all things.) It’s always a bit nerve-wracking to be diverted, because a little voice always tells me that there’s actually something wrong with the plane, and the captain is just pretending it has something to do with cargo in order to keep us all calm.

Sitting on the tarmac at Boston Logan, I figured we’d missed the 11:00 Eurostar for sure. We frantically called American Express (I always book through their travel service), trying to reschedule, but by the time we got to a live person, we were forced to hang up the phone for takeoff. We landed in Gatwick just after nine, over two hours late.

Amazingly, our driver got us from Gatwick to Ashford in under an hour, in traffic, in pouring rain. We made the train with time to spare. (If you live in London or the southeast of England, you ought to be impressed.) In fact, the taxi service was so danged good I’m going to endorse them here.

Our brief stay in Paris was delightful. We were walking distance to everything, with a fine Eiffel tower view from our bedroom. We were able to walk everywhere (no taxis, no Metro, just feet), and I am eager to go back for a much longer stay. Even at my frantic pace, there was simply too much to see in two days.

Our Valentine’s night dinner was vegetarian, of course; our travel agent found us what claims to be the only Michelin 3-star primarily vegetarian restaurant in the world. (The website is all in French. I can read French pretty well, but can’t speak it to save my life. Arpege does serve some meat products — alas including foie gras — but it’s very easy to have a vegetarian, even vegan meal that meets the standards of haute gastronomie.) The meal lasted nearly four hours, and I was blissful throughout the entire time; my wife was awed that her hyperactive, fidgety husband was able to sit still and be cheerful and present for so long! We did the tasting menu, composed almost entirely of root vegetables prepared in the most unexpected and extraordinary ways. It was the longest, most delightful, and most romantic dinner of my entire life. Worth every Eurocent, even with a very weak dollar.

Last Friday, we flew directly from Paris to Exeter to visit my brother and his family. It was cloudy and wet most of our stay in Devon, but we had a happy time regardless. Lots of long walks along the Exe estuary, lots of good potato and veggie pasties.

I’ll try and post a few pictures in the Flickr account later today or tomorrow.

Oh, and as of this morning, I’m once again going off all diet sodas and artificial sweeteners. I’d been doing so well for so long, and then had a relapse last fall that ended up lasting about five months. As of this morning, no more diet Cokes. My students will not see any more giant mugs of cola; they will see lots of water and a regularly refilled coffee mug.

More on other things soon.

A note about race and manners

A good weekend all around.  We went to see Venus last night; Peter O’Toole was indeed as terrific as advertised.  I enjoyed the film more than my wife did; as hostile as I generally am to older men-younger women romances, I bought the challenging, often squirm-inducing aspects of the story.  And I appreciated that it was surprisingly unsentimental.

I’m thinking this morning about handshakes, perhaps because I dreamt about them last night. 

Actually, I’m thinking less about handshakes and more about manners.  I grew up in a family in which manners were very much part of our civil religion.  “A gentleman always makes other people feel comfortable” was a central maxim of my childhood.  There was a good deal more about making others feel relaxed and welcomed than there was about “standing up for the truth”.  Our kind of people could hold a wide variety of views on religious and political matters, but OKOP always were raised to master the social graces.  (My dear uncle Stanley, a noted Communist and philosopher whose work is still widely read, regularly went to meetings of the radical left dressed impeccably in a Brooks Brothers suit.  He could betray his class,  but not his upbringing — if that makes any sense.)

In my childhood, we were regularly told that “if you have good manners, you can go anywhere.”  My grandmother told us that a gentleman (or a lady) should be able to have tea with the Queen in Buckingham Palace; a gentleman or a lady should feel equally at home on a stool in a dive bar in the Mission District.  “If you have lovely manners”, she told us, “you can go anywhere and fit right in.”  (I’ve sat on a lot of barstools in my nearly forty years.  I still await my invitation from Her Majesty, but my grandmother’s point is well-taken.)

I think manners popped into my head because I was also thinking about race, particularly after reading this article in yesterday’s paper about interracial relationships on television.  It’s an interesting piece about the ways in which the current crop of television depictions of interracial romances tend to minimize or even ignore some of the very real pitfalls that such relationships can present.

I’m married to a woman who is of mixed ancestry; she can “pass” for white, black, or Hispanic.  Our children, when they are born, will be a glorious mix: indigenous Colombian,  Jewish, English, Scots-Irish, Croatian, Nigerian, German, Flemish, Welsh, Czech, Spanish.  And I can’t help but wonder whether or not they will they will appear “white”.  My love, of course, is not conditional on race or appearance.  But I know that we live in a world where perceptions about race can still be very powerful. I know that we live in a world where “blackness” is still charged with significance.  And I know that if my children appear to be black, they may face a certain set of obstacles in the world that they will not face if they more closely resemble their European heritage.

What does this have to do with manners? In my family (which was entirely white in my childhood, much less so now), we were told again and again that “if you have good manners, people will welcome you anywhere you go.”  I’ve been to five continents and most corners of this country, and I’m happy to say that my grandmother’s words have proved true.  But I also know that folks around the globe notice my pale blue eyes before they notice my manners.  I have had friends very close to me whose skin is darker than mine and whose easy graciousness surpasses my own.  They have not always had the welcomes I have had. 

I will teach my children many of the lessons I learned.  We will work on chewing with the mouth closed; we will learn to master increasingly complex table settings.  We will learn that the key to good party manners is not being interesting, but being interested.  We will definitely devote several hours to handshake instruction, teaching that firm, polite grip that avoids the twin disasters of the “dead fish” or the “bonecrusher.”  And if they’re like their father was, my children will find the lessons boring and exasperating at the time they are taught; they will come to be immensely grateful for them.  And oh God, how I hope that they will live in a world where whatever their outer appearance, those manners will serve them well and cause them to be welcomed wherever they go.

And just maybe, they’ll get invited to Buckingham Palace.

 

 

Lapping the Louvre and sprinting Schoenbrunn: the dream TV series for a hyperactive philistine

On Tuesday, I posted this very short note about my frustration with those who walk too slowly; the thread turned out to be rather fun.

Reading the comments, it occurs to me I’ve never posted about one of my future plans: to create a company that offers running tours of major historical sites. Not just running tours of famous cities, but of museums, cathedrals, temples, and so forth. You combine my natural hyperactivity, my inattentiveness, my love of running, my love of travel, and an unfortunate tendency to be a cultural philistine, and voila! A brand new way to see the world!

When I spent a semester teaching in a study abroad program in Italy, I mastered getting in and out of museums while still seeing all that needed to be seen. The Uffizi? Twenty minutes. The Doge’s Palace? Fifteen minutes. The Bargello? Seventeen. The Vatican museum took forty, but that was due to crowds that slowed down my steaming pace, not to any great desire to linger. And during my few months in Italy, I got an idea: create running tours of museums.

We’d need to rent out museums early in the morning, when runners like to work out and before the crowds come. We’d have to wear special racing flats that wouldn’t scuff the floors of the glorious galleries. Gathering before dawn, I’d work in conjunction with some athletic art historians, and we’d lead a pack of similarly-minded folks through a whirl-wind tour of the great galleries, palaces, and museums. We’d see everything, if not on a dead run, at least at a steady jog. Ten seconds with Botticelli, five with Donatello, three quick circuits around the feet of David in the Accademia. We’d run through all the rooms at Versailles; we’d climb the Eiffel Tower; we’d race through Schoenbrunn, do fartlek in the Tate, and sprint the Hermitage. Folks who needed to linger would be allowed to do so for a minute or two, and then catch up with our merry band composed of the spandex-clad and the Asics-hooved.

As the day wore on, this happy, sweaty group would move outside into the dawn (this tour will work best in spring or summer). We’d find the coffee shops, slurp down the local stimulating beverage, and then head off to the parks. In Dublin, we’d cavort in Phoenix Park; in London, run with the squirrels in Hyde Park; in Madrid, we might do intervals in the Jardin Botanico.

You get the idea.

At the very least, I’d like to go to Europe with a camera crew. I could be miked to lecture as I ran, and offer breezy, light-footed commentary as I jogged through the cities. I’d show visiting runners the best routes, and I’d conduct guest interviews with athletic locals; there’s always some expert in the antiquities about who also likes to lace up the trainers and break a sweat. Our conversations would be conducted at a pace rapid enough for a workout, slow enough for us to chat easily. We’d do a series of half-hour episodes, and air them on some happy mix of the History Channel and ESPN.

I’m fortunate to have run in many different cities. Some cities around the world are marvelous to run in, of course. Running the shoreline in Chicago, running Central Park, running the Mall in our nation’s capital, running Hayward field in Eugene: these are sublime experiences for the tourist. Europe offers its glorious parks and boulevards. When I spent those many months in Florence, I ran the Cascine every day; when I visit family in Devon, I run for miles along the banks of the lugubrious river Exe. Not all places are easy to run: Hong Kong is very, very crowded! I made a sincere effort to run through Central at midday, and it didn’t go well until I gave up and jogged up the Peak Road. Bogota is, well, not very safe for this little white boy; it’s the one city I’ve ever visited where I’ve felt compelled to confine my running to the treadmill in the hotel gym.

I remember trying to run in John O’Groats in northern Scotland in the wind and the rain. That was tough. I tried to run up the side of Table Mountain in Cape Town, got winded, and had to break it off to my considerable shame. And when it comes to cities that are unfriendly to runners, Venice is the greatest challenge. I managed to do a few runs through the streets between the train station and San Marco, but after I knocked over a couple of slow-moving tourists and a postcard stand, I surrendered to the elements and gave up.

Let me get a book or two out, and then I’m pitching this “run the great heritage sites of the world” idea to the Discovery channel. Don’t go scooping me, now!

A very long post about Los Angeles, an Eagles song, nationalism, history, self-reinvention and the “club versus country” debate

A week ago Sunday, my buddy Leo and I ran up the El Prieto trail and the Brown Mountain fire road. Though we’re usually part of a larger group, we were alone that day. Leo was recovering from a marathon, and I was feeling well-rested, so I was actually able to keep up with him for a change. (In his late 50s, Leo still regularly runs marathons just above the three hour mark and has finished his share of 50 and 100-mile races).

We talked about books, history, ideas. When I run with some friends, we talk about love and marriage and family; when I run with others, I argue politics or theology. A few friends, like Leo, are interested in all of these topics and more. In an early morning chill, we began by reflecting together on the burden of the past.

Leo was born just after the Second World War into a Polish refugee family. He was raised in West Germany. Much like my late father, a dozen years his senior, Leo has that sense that many war refugees have — a sense of never quite belonging, a sense that perhaps at any moment, he might have to pack his bags and leave again. My father, born in Vienna, raised in rural Berkshire, spent nearly fifty years of his life in California without ever truly feeling at home here. He didn’t feel fully at home in Austria or England either. Leo and my Dad knew each other, and were fond of each other. When I got married a year and a half ago, they spoke German together at our wedding.

But we didn’t just talk about my Dad or about Leo’s similar sense of not quite belonging. We talked about the San Gabriel Mountains we both love so much. As we neared the Brown Mountain summit, I said to Leo “Isn’t it interesting to think we are the only members of our family ever to be here? None of our ancestors ever stood where we are standing right now.”

“Yes”, Leo replied, “it’s liberating.”

And I’ve been thinking about that for nine days now. I’m a historian by trade, of course; I have devoted my scholarly and professional life to the study of the past. I’m a dual national, holding a UK passport, and am a regular visitor to the land that gave my father’s family shelter and the land my brother calls home. I love to visit what some folks call “old places”, filled with a rich sense of history. When I tramp through the hills of Devon, or run through the streets of Vienna, I feel as if I am surrounded by ghosts. Not evil spirits, mind — just an extraordinary cloud of witnesses of all who have lived and died in these places. And when I am in those places where my ancestors lived, I feel the weight of their fears and their hopes and their expectations all around me. It’s not always unpleasant, but it’s always there.

Even when I go home to Northern California, I feel surrounded by a sense of family history. On my mother’s side, my family came to the Bay Area for the Gold Rush more than a century and a half ago. We’ve had a country place in the hills northeast of San Jose since Rutherford Hayes was president; by the standards of this state, that’s some ancient history. My maternal great-grandfathers both went to Berkeley, and when I was a student at Cal nine decades later, I felt them all around me. Now, don’t get me wrong, sometimes it is a wonderful feeling to feel so connected to a place. But at other times, it is exhausting in ways I find difficult to describe.

What makes me a Los Angeleno in my mindset is my fascination with self-reinvention. I love that I am surrounded by hundreds of thousands, even millions of people, who call somewhere else their truest home — but have nonetheless come here, to this basin with its beaches and valleys and hills — in order to start something new. They’ve come here to escape the burdens and obligations of the past, the sort that linger in the old places even after the old people have gone. They’ve come here to escape the “things are the way they are” mindset. They’ve come here to replace the fatalism and superstition of the old places with a relentless optimism about their own potential and the possibility of global transformation. They’ve come here to get away from the ghosts of Holocausts and World Wars and rigid class distinctions. They’ve come here to run on mountain trails upon which their ancestors never set foot.

(I’m listening to the Eagles “The Last Resort” right now on Itunes. Appropriate.)

As I’ve said, I love to visit the old places. My doctorate is in medieval history, for heaven’s sake; I spent many happy hours doing research in the shadow of my favorite building in the western world, Durham Cathedral. But it’s not just the damp and gloom of old Europe that makes me glad I live in this sprawling, metastasizing megalopolis. It’s the sense that I always get in the old places that humans and animals are limited and constrained by the story of the past. (As the Eagles sing in the song to which I’m listening: “where the Old World shadows hang heavy in the air.”) Their sense of themselves is related not only to place, but to the past story of the place. And just below the surface, there often bubbles a raw xenophobic nationalism that I find fascinating but repugnant.

Leo and I talked a lot about nationalism and place and history. We both love soccer, and we both are World Cup fans who go pretty nuts every four years. But especially after this last World Cup, I’ve begun to have some misgivings about “country” based sporting events. In professional football of the world kind, one great conflict that always comes up is the “club” versus “country” debate. When English players are playing for Premiership teams and training for a major international event, it’s hardly feasible for them to be 100% present for both sets of obligations. (Think of how angry folks in Newcastle are over the injury that an overworked and exhausted Michael Owen sustained last summer while playing for England in Germany.) The traditional wisdom is that athletes should put country over club, national pride over transitory professional obligations. I disagree completely.

I watched the England-Portugal World Cup quarterfinal match last summer in a state of grief and rage. My father, whose family had been rescued from Hitler by English generosity, had died days earlier. And England played a piss-poor match that they deserved to lose. But I, a dual national in SoCal, found myself working myself up into a nationalistic frenzy while watching the game. Under my breath, I said several embarrassing things about the entire Portuguese nation; my rage at a certain Cristian Ronaldo turned quickly into a temporary fury at all things Lusitanian. I calmed down within minutes, but from reading the BBC’s message boards after the game, I know that others were not so restrained. The racist bile that flowed last summer was appalling.

I’ve decided I prefer “club” soccer now. Though I am no fan of Manchester United, I love that Wayne Rooney and his nemesis, Ronaldo, play together. I love seeing a Premiership side take the pitch with eleven players with nearly as many passports. In the mercenary act of playing for pay rather than for national pride, these men do more to advance the cause of peace and understanding than they do when they wear their country’s jerseys on a global stage. Even when nation-based matches are played with mutual respect between the players, the fans themselves are often whipped into emotional frenzies in which ancient bigotries suddenly and shockingly reemerge.

I have my allegiances in sports. I “hate” the Dallas Cowboys. I “hate” Arsenal (of the London clubs, I support Spurs). But those aren’t ethnic hatreds. To put it bluntly, there’s a world of difference between cursing “those f-ing Gunners” after another loss in the North London derby, and cursing “those f-ing wogs” after England loses to a nation whose players (for the most part) have much darker skin than those who wear three Lions on their chests. Club rivalries have notoriously led to violence, but not to wars. In a club rivalry, you shout insults at another fan because of what he wears; in national rivalries, you shout insults because of who he is. There’s no question that the latter is more dangerous. (Now, OKOP don’t shout insults. Our disappointment is subdued, masked, drowned behind thin smiles and private tears. NOKOP rage is public, ours is sublimated.)

(Parenthetical aside: One of the things I love about Los Angeles: we don’t have an NFL team. Here’s an American football fan hoping we never get one! How delicious to live in a city where everyone’s allegiances are elsewhere! I get a smug satisfaction from living in a place that doesn’t need a team to call its own, but can rely on quirky whims to select which club to root for. My youth group kids are holding a Super Bowl party; some will root for the Colts and others for the Bears, but their allegiances are based on uniform colors or affection for a particular player rather than a loyalty to place. I like that.)

But even as I write this this morning, I know better than to claim that I live beyond history. My fascination with “personal growth” and transformation, my longing for new beginnings, my personal narrative of starting over — this is part of my own family’s legacy. What prosperity and success we have had comes from good luck (we got here first and stole more), but also from something that may be coded into our DNA: a longing to go further and further west. Pioneers and survivors are in my blood; I am descended from those who were willing to leave rather than stay. (This brings to mind a snippet from a Caedmon’s Call song: “I come from a long line of leavers.”) I am descended from those whose fascination with the new trumped their loyalty to the old. It would be hubris to suggest that I am the first in a long line to want to start over somewhere new, to liberate myself from old rules and old obligations and old animosities.

Leo and I had a good run that Sunday. And yes, we talked about all of this and more.

Home again, with some photos

We’re home from a long and happy trip that took us to Hong Kong, Macau, and Thailand; our first trip to East Asia, and a very interesting one. I’ll have at least a few pictures up in my Flickr account in the next day or two.

I blogged last month about my love of flying. That love was put to the test these past couple of weeks. As loyal patrons of British Airways, we flew to Asia — the long way: Los Angeles-London-Hong Kong and return, or 2/3rds of the way around the earth. Our just concluded homeward journey began in Bangkok; we flew BKK-HKG-LHR-LAX, landing a couple of hours ago after 25 hours of flight time and another eight to ten hours of “lounge time.”

Now that we’re home, the first priority, of course, is time with the chinnies. Then, eventually, to the sea of emails that need answering. And then, starting Monday, some good blogging. I can’t wait to get back to reading my regular blogs — I feel utterly out of touch with everyone, and can only hope that my readership will return.

UPDATE: Public pictures are up here. Friends and family can view a second, private album; email me if you want to be added to that category.

Airplanes, the love of flying, and remembering my Dad

I’ve got lots of grading and other end-of-the-semester tasks to get to, but I thought I’d share this little bit about myself — not something most people know.

I love airplanes. When I was a small child, my favorite place to spend the day was at the tiny Monterey Peninsula Airport. When my father came up for his regular visits, I would beg to be taken to the airport, to watch the planes land and take off. Given that in the 1970s, there were only three or four commercial flights a day, this could mean a lot of waiting. Monterey has a great observation deck, slap above the terminal and just feet from the runway. We would stand out on the deck, staring off to the east, straining our eyes to see the first sign or glimmer of an approaching plane. (In the ’70s, Monterey was briefly served by real jets, mostly United 727s). I loved the landing, the taxiing, the elaborate directions given by the ground crew as they guided the plane to a stop. My late father, endlessly patient, would sit with me as the plane unloaded, loaded, and departed — and though landings were nice, take-offs were the most exciting part of my whole day.

I still love airplanes and airports. I have mixed feelings about flying, mind you; it can be a physically uncomfortable experience. But the process of going to the airport, of getting on the plane — I still adore that. Obviously, long-haul transcontinental flights are considerably more interesting, not least of all because of the excitement surrounding a vacation or a family visit. But while boarding a 747 or an A340 for a ten or thirteen hour flight around the globe is still very exciting (all the more so when one isn’t flying economy, thanks be to God), I still get a little tingle each and every time I climb on a short Southwest flight from Burbank to San Jose.

A lot of our discretionary income goes into travel. I’m lucky that my wife’s passion for seeing the world exceeds my own. (She’s a good deal less excited about the planes themselves, and more excited about the destinations.) We’ve traveled enough to accumulate some serious frequent flyer miles; for those who know I’ve got BA “silver” status now and am closing in on getting “gold” before too long. We’re traveling abroad again over the Christmas and New Year’s Holidays; I’ll let you know exactly where when we get back. (We’re not leaving for another week and a half, and will be back on January 7. We have chinnie sitters arranged to guard the home front.) I will say that we’ve booked a very odd way to getting where we’re going; we’re going to end up flying nearly 22 hours to get somewhere that should only take a little more than half that time going “the other way.” I’ll explain when we’re home.

So when we’re not traveling, we’re planning our next trip. And while my wife is thinking about hotels and restaurants, I think about planes. I think about the various merits of 747s and 777s and the larger Airbuses*; I read the major commercial airline magazines (this is my favorite) and spend time on the airliner and travel internet forums and bulletin boards. One goal for the near future: a “round the world”, using several different airlines, following the sun.

I haven’t posted about my love of flying for a couple of reasons. One, I know it’s a black spot on my environmentalist record; I know jets contribute to global warming. I support Richard Branson’s efforts to reduce aircraft emissions, and am eager to see new ideas developed to mitigate the damage wrought by so much flying. But I’m not willing to give up seeing the world. I may have stopped buying leather, I may be a full vegetarian, I may give to a lot of animal rights and environmental charities, but, dear Lord, I’m not willing to give up the short hops and the long hauls. I’m too addicted still to filling my passports (UK and American) with stamps and visas.

Two, though I don’t go into detail about how much money is being spent on all this, folks can figure it out. It seems rude, somehow, to talk too much about a hobby that is out of reach of so many. So I don’t post “trip reports” on my blog, though I do do so on some of the airliner forums (though not always under my own name.) I figure it’s grating to have to read “Oh we went here, and stayed at this lovely place” when that isn’t really the purpose of this blog.

I haven’t traveled abroad since my father’s death in June. He was a fairly accomplished traveler himself, and he was very indulgent of my great and early love of aircraft. When my wife and I walk into the Tom Bradley International Terminal later this month, I’ll be thinking of my papa. And as I look out at the jumbos lined up at the piers, ready to go to London and Paris and Taipei and Auckland, I’ll mist up with excitement and with a keen sense of missing my Daddy. This I know.

*Unless you can get on to the “upper deck” of a 747, or into the nose, I prefer the A340 to the biggest Boeing planes. I’m in a distinct minority among frequent travelers on that one.